Carolyn’s 6 tips on making sympathy cards – the hardest cards

Flourishing Phrases - with sympathy from Stampin' Up! Card Made by Carolyn Bennie - Australian Independent Stampin' Up! Demonstrator

Recently my husband Chris sadly lost a dear uncle of his. Chris headed back to our home town Port Lincoln for the funeral and to pay his respects and he asked me to make a really nice sympathy card to give to his Aunty and it got me thinking; what are my thoughts on hand making sympathy cards.

A lot of people aren’t sure about making sympathy cards. Who inspires them? The person that has passed or the person they’re going to?

Here are my tips (and my thoughts – everyone is different):

  1. When making a sympathy card I like to make it in honour and in a reflection of the person who has passed. 
  2. I don’t make sympathy cards in advance and it’s not anything to do with superstition.  I like to use the card creation time to reflect on the life and beauty of the person we’ve lost. Some people do make a batch of sympathy cards in advance, to have on hand if the need requires, it’s just not what I do. Everyone is different and this is so personal. Plus I’m not that organised. 😉
  3. Sympathy cards should be more formal than when what you might give for a birthday for someone of the same age or gender. Think dignified and polished.
  4. Keep the card age and gender appropriate to the person who has passed away.
  5. Keep sympathy cards simple in design.
    • For adult masculine cards, patterns are refined.
    • For feminine cards very subtle watercolours or florals are peaceful.
    • For children – I can hardly even stand to think about it but I would use a lot of white and touches of subtle colours with images reflecting their age or personality.

6. The MOST important rule. There really are no hard and fast rules with love and sympathy. If the person who’s past has a bold personality for instance, then, by all means, let that shine through. 

In my card today I’ve used one of my FAVOURITE ribbons from the Stampin’ Up! range, Black Simmer Ribbon. It actually comes in 3 other colours and you NEED this ribbon. Oh, my it comes in Crumb Cake people!! My favourite colour. This black might just be my second favourite colour however in this ribbon.

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Give the ones you love a big hug, my friends. Tell them you love them.

Carolyn Bennie - Australian Independent Stampin' Up! Demonstrator -

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3 thoughts on “Carolyn’s 6 tips on making sympathy cards – the hardest cards

  1. What a beautiful card Carolyn (from Carolynn in Canada)! Do you have any secrets on how you tied that perfect double layered bow? It is fabulous! Thanks for sharing with the world! 💖

  2. Hi sweetie x sympathy cards are very personal but I do make ones for sale in advance as it is usually something someone wants in a hurry x for adults I keep it very simplistic and usually only a couple of colours more often than not grey or black with white I think for me it’s more about the words inside x sadly I have had to make cards for children my nephew died at 4days old he was premature x but we literally from the day he grew his wings called him our little butterfly x and since then that’s been a must on an child sympathy card with a tiny bit of colour and a wee bit of sparkle not garish but maybe a little hint on the butterfly wings x I always if being commissioned for one make it as personal as possible perhaps females their favourite flower or colour males I tend to go for more nature serene landscape or tree plant silhouette x but always give the person a few choices of verses and add them inside x I think people gain strength from words x

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